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A Very Special Person

2010-01-31 09:00 (comments: 0)

Who in your life has left an especially important impression upon you? What did this person do to impress you that much? In 90% of cases I receive the answer as: "He/she gave me the feeling of being important. He/she was interested in my opinion." We have all experienced such behaviours and also have behaved ourselves that way ... at a rendezvous where we sapped up each word and each movement of the other person with full attention and enthusiasm. Nothing could distract our attention or weaken our interest. Or during an important discussion with our boss. We let him/her talk, ensuring that we understand everything exactly, not interrupting or taking over the conversation. We don't acknowledge the spoken words with an "I already know that" nor do we allow our eyes to wander around the room, which would signal disinterest.

You might now be thinking that this is nothing new, this is clear! You are perfectly correct. The question, however, is if you really do this? How often do you give a conversation partner the feeling that they are the only ones in the room? How often do you make your counterpart feel important and unique? How often do you listen attentively, without interrupting or finishing your counterpart's sentence, or putting your own views, humour or ego at the forefront? Now, if in your surroundings, one was to ask: "who has left a special impression upon others?" How many people would describe you as a special person who makes others feel important?
This week, why don't you try to give your full attention to as many people as possible, to listen actively and interestingly in order to understand and not to answer... and observe what happens. 

TAKE ACTION: Please share with us your insights, your experience and your success, in this blog when you become this very special person ... or have a very special person in your life!

Interesting Movie 

Did you ever have a Teacher who really was a very special person? Watch Taylor Mali on "What teachers make" Movie

Quotes

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

Dale Carnegie

Share your M&Ms. There are bags and bags of them all over the place. If you give them one of yours, even one of the green ones, you will not be lacking. Honust Injun. Now apply this to Time, Concern, Touch, Interest and Being Vulnerable.

Hugh Elliott 

The only factor becoming scarce in a world of abundance is human attention.

Kevin Kelly

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