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How do you rate those names?

2013-03-15 18:09 (comments: 0)

Many of you know that I have two teenagers at home. At this impressionable age young people are very susceptible to the influences of their friends. As long as the teenagers hang out with the „good kids” everything is fine, but if they are influenced negatively, even the nicest teenager can become a real problem.

We all know this. You too, don’t you?

So let me ask you, what kind of people do you surround yourself with? You are being influenced, too. Most probably you aren’t as susceptible to the social influences as a young person who is not nearly as experienced and stable as you are, but the influences of others do not leave you unaffected.

One of my clients, whom we will call John, is generally a very positive and motivated person. Unfortunately, the company where he works has been restructured three times in a short period of time and this has negatively impacted the general mood at his workplace. His colleagues have become negative and demotivated and as the general atmosphere has become more negative, he noticed that he, too, has been influenced. His mood and his behavior have deteriorated. At the beginning he wasn’t aware of the impact and only noticed that he got uninspired and that he became tired or exhausted very fast. After we analyzed the situation and looked for the reasons, it led us to the environment and the people at work!

Bearing this in mind, why don’t you try a small experiment?

Write down the names of people regularly present in your life. Include family members, friends, colleagues, bosses, club members, people who share your hobby: think about all people that you regularly spend time with.

Now ask the following question: 

„Does this person fill me with good energy?“ If the answer is „yes“, put a plus (+) next to their name.

If this person fills you with negative energy, then put a minus (-) next to their name. If the answer is neither „yes“, nor „no“, write „N“ for „neutral“.

How does your list look like?

How could you limit your time with the (-) people, or could you even stop your contact with them? And how could you spend more time with the (+) people instead?

You decide who gets to influence you!



Be as careful of the books you read, as of the company you keep; for your habits and character will be as much influenced by the former as by the latter.


Paxton Hood

Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another.


George Eliot


Few things in the world are more powerful than a positive push. A smile. A word of optimism and hope. A "you can do it" when things are tough.


Richard M. DeVos

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