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2012/2013 –Changing the Year - Step-by-Step

2013-01-26 15:12 (comments: 0)

The new year begins differently for everybody. Some people celebrate the coming of the New Year with loud and exciting parties. Others welcome it quietly with the closest friends or even alone.

Some people take stock of the last year or look forward, or both. Some announce their New Year’s resolutions to the world. However, regardless of the way each of us welcomes the New Year, we all generally tend to make the same mistake at the beginning: we continue writing down the wrong year number.

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How often have you made this mistake already this year?

I’ve observed the following since the New Year’s Eve:

At the beginning I was very focused when writing down the year. The New Year was very clear in my mind and it was easy to remember to write down the right number.

After a few days I started making mistakes and I had to make a conscious effort to write it down correctly. I had to slow down in my mind and remind myself that it was now 201….3. It was necessary to have this conscious moment of awareness in which I reminded myself to change the number.

Now I’ve practiced it consciously long enough to be able to write it down right almost automatically, except for those moments when I’m not really concentrated.

Sometimes, when I’m really distracted the old habit comes back and I make the mistake in the year again, without even noticing it. It’s getting better with every passing week, and one day I will get used to the new number and I will write it down automatically. And then, in a few months I will have to get through the same procedure with the year 2014. 

The same mechanism works when we try to change any other habit. It can be learning self-control instead of reacting rashly, or drinking a glass of water or eating something healthy instead of choosing a piece of chocolate or a cigarette. The good news is that if it works with learning to write a new year number, it works with changing other habits too!

Believe in yourself and start a new year or a new life!


Perhaps the biggest tragedy of our lives is that freedom is possible, yet we can pass our years trapped in the same old patterns. 

Tara Brach

A thoroughly good relationship with ourselves results in being still, which doesn't mean we don't run and jump and dance about. It means there's no compulsiveness. We don't overwork, overeat, oversmoke, overseduce. In short, we begin to stop causing harm.

Pema Chodron


We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.



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