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2013-09-06 15:56 (comments: 0)

What kind of person are you?

Are you a perfectionist or rather someone who does not pay so much attention to detail?  Perhaps for you this changes from situation to situation.  One of my clients is a real perfectionist at work and does everything thoroughly and with full dedication and attention to every detail. However, his wife has expressed a wish for more of this thorough behavior, because he seems to display exactly opposite behavior at home. Your place on the scale of perfectionism isn’t written in stone.  Perfection can lead to excellence, great accuracy or advance planning, but it can also paralyze. If you feel that you can never plan enough or that you never know enough to take a decision, then it is a hindrance.

Whether you are a perfectionist grappling or even self-sabotaging yourself with this tendency, or whether you are rather relaxed and want to raise your standard a bit, do not compare yourself to others, but ask yourself instead whether you have done your best according to your ability. Only you can answer this, because ”your best” might fluctuate in value: it might be amazing on your best days, and on your worse days it might be less spectacular. What is important however, is to understand that at any given moment you are doing your best according to your abilities at that moment. And only this matters.

 Even if you don’t reach 100%, you can still try to get as close to it as possible. Understand also that the benchmark for “the best” is very individual for other people as well. Develop appreciation for the commitment and the effort that people make to use their full potential, particularly for your family members or work colleagues, and be aware of individual differences. Motivate yourself and others to test your full ability and its full range, but do not over-challenge yourself, because this will certainly lead to poorer performance and demotivation.

What are your thoughts and your internal dialogue about perfection? How do you deal with it? Is there room for improvement and self-development?



Practice means to perform, over and over again in the face of all obstacles, some act of vision, of faith, of desire. Practice is a means of inviting the perfection desired.


Martha Graham


The bottom line is that (a) people are never perfect, but love can be, (b) that is the one and only way that the mediocre and vile can be transformed, and (c) doing that makes it that. We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.


Tom Robbins


I am not and never will be perfect. I am not always as honest, respectful, responsible, fair or as kind as I should be. All I can do is what I should do: strive every day, with every decision to be the best person I can be. I don't expect to be perfect but I know I can be better.


Michael Josephson



He is coming very close to perfection!

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