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Self-coaching Questions

2013-03-01 20:29 (comments: 0)

As a coach, I believe that my clients often have the answers to their own questions and solutions to their problems, but they often can’t see them due to a kind of “tunnel vision” which allows only limited insight into their situation. I believe that by asking the right questions I help them to find their own answers and solutions by changing their perspectives and broadening their view.

Today I would like to offer you a list of self-coaching questions.

Think about something that you would like to clarify or change, or some situation where you aren’t sure what to do. Once you have identified your issue, read the questions below and observe which of them cause a reaction in you. This reaction can come in form of curiosity, denial or discomfort.  If there is a reaction, this means it’s a good question for you.

Next, take a piece of paper and write the answer to this question. Are there other questions which resonate with you next? Answer them again in writing and go on until you are done.

I wish you a lot of fun and success with this self-coaching experience and I look forward to hearing about your results in my blog, on Facebook or on LinkedIn!

Here are the self-coaching questions:

  • What types of activities am I naturally drawn to?
  • What is something that is really easy for me to do?
  • What is something that I have been successful with in the past?
  • What made me successful?
  • How do other people describe me?
  • What gives me energy? (Make a list)
  • What drains my energy? (Make a list)
  • What do I need to let go of?
  • What type of environment inspires me?
  • What thoughts and feelings energize me?
  • What is my gut telling me to do next?
  • What is missing in my life right now, that I want more of?
  • If I knew I couldn’t fail, what would I do?
  • If I could take a virtual tour into my perfect future, how would it look like? Describe in great detail!
  • What is the legacy I would like to leave? How should people remember me?
  • Imagine I already know what to do, what would be my next step?
  • If my best friend would be in this situation, what would I suggest to him?
  • Am I expecting too much of myself or others?
  • Who do I admire and why? (famous or not, dead or alive)
  • What is the worst thing that can happen?
  • Is that true?
  • How do I know that this is true?
  • What stops me from moving forward?
  • What can I learn from this experience?
  • What is the one thing I can do now, to change the situation around?
  • What have I not thought of yet?
  • How do I know, that I moved forward?
  • What other possibilities do I have?
  • What else?
  • How is my current attitude supporting or undermining my goal?
  • What does being successful look like for me?
  • If I think it is not possible, what would make it possible?
  • Who do I need to talk to, to get the right answers?
  • Where do I find the missing information to be able to move forward?
  • What do I need to ask myself to get unstuck?
  • What dream have I given up?
  • What kind of support would be helpful for me now?
  • What would be a simple first step?
  • What am I waiting for?



Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax.


William S. Burroughs


To be able to ask a question clearly is two-thirds of the way to getting it answered.


John Ruskin


You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.

Naguib Mahfouz


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