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The Broken Bone

2010-03-08 12:29 (comments: 1)

Today I will reflect on a story which occurred two years ago between Christmas and New Years. Our daughter, Serena, broke her femur while skiing. She was brought to the physician by the alpine rescue team and on the same day was operated on with a minimal invasive procedure. It was Christmas day and it was rather unsettling for all of us.

As I did not want to leave her alone in the clinic, I moved from the hotel into the hospital where we had a nice two-bed room just for us. While Serena was recovering from the operation, we played several rounds of card games und I also read a lot from her new book to her. One morning, I was looking out the window, enjoying the beautiful view onto the sunny ski slopes, and the numerous skiers who were enjoying the fantastic snow and weather conditions. Suddenly, Serena said: "Mommy, just because of me you can't go skiing and the weather is so great - I am very sorry!"

I turned around and looked at her astonished.  "If I knew that you were not feeling well and that you would be lying here all alone in this room, I would not have fun skiing. I would anyway be thinking of you all the time and wondering how you are doing" I said with a smile.

Just a few years ago, I might have thought exactly what she was saying to me, but today I see things differently. I sat down next to her and explained to her what I think about such situations. "You know, Serena, whenever something happens, no matter how uncomfortable - something one did not want to happen, I believe firmly that there is a good reason why it happened. We can always learn and grow from each situation if we keep our eyes open and intelligently search for meaning. At the end there is something positive in every experience. One simply does not always recognize it right away".

This seemed to occupy her intensely as she lay in her bed lost in thought for quite a while. Suddenly she decided to share her thoughts: "I think it is nice that we can spend so much time together and can talk a lot without anyone bothering us. Besides, now I know that I can break a bone and still be alive. It hurts quite a bit but I endured it. And for that, I am proud. Besides I had never used a bedpan, and now I know how that works!"

Prior to this discussion, she was just constantly whining about what she can't do and how dumb it was to have a broken leg. Now, she isn't a helpless victim anymore but an astute observer with a positive angle on things. Do you also know situations that look quite different when one searches for the positive angles?


A strong positive mental attitude will create more miracles than any wonder drug.

Patricia Neal 



Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results.

Willie Nelson  



Question: Why are we Masters of our Fate, the captains of our souls? Because we have the power to control our thoughts, our attitudes. That is why many people live in the withering negative world. That is why many people live in the Positive Faith world. And you don't have to be a poet or a philosopher to know which is best.

Alfred A. Montapert


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Comment by Ann Söderblom | 2010-03-14

Thanks for sharing this beautiful reflection, it's such a great feeling when you realize that you can change your experience of things depending on your own perception.