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The Language of Positive Change

2013-09-26 16:32 (comments: 0)

I often ask myself if all the people who currently are talking only about crisis, problems or recession are aware how their manner of speaking is fuelling the problem even more, and with that are driving the situation even further down, rather than focusing their line of sight forward. I am not talking about avoiding and acting as if everything is just fine, but about the positive language of change! Instead of crisis, simply just talk about interesting times or a challenge. Already you have struck a new innovative direction rather than a depressing one! This positive language of change can be applied to many areas in life, in work, in one's social network, in relationships and with your own children.

When you meet your next business associate or friend don't ask:

 "Are you also already feeling the recession? Are your orders also slowing down or are you expecting a poor year?"

But:

"What good ideas have you found to stimulate the market? How are you motivating your employees to seek new possibilities?"

When in a relationship you seem to be talking at cross-purposes, don't say:

"You just don't understand me or you never listen! We can never communicate properly with each other!"

But:

"How can we mutually achieve a solution? How can we learn to understand each other better? What can I do, so that we understand each other better?"

When you call on someone to do something or to stop something, don't say:

"Don't dally around, we will be late otherwise. You absolutely must hand in the report one time. Otherwise everything stops because of you!"

But:

"We have to leave in 10 minutes and I am counting on you that we will leave punctually. Please submit the report by Thursday so that everyone can continue as planned."

Often, based on our surroundings or the media we follow, we slip into a type of language that really does not help us. This week consciously observe if you tend to use a problem language or the positive language of change!

 

Quotes 

 

Turbulence is life force. It is opportunity. Let's love turbulence and use it for change.

 

Ramsay Clark 

 

A problem is a chance for you to do your best.

 

Duke Ellington

 

The way we see the problem is the problem.

Stephen Covey

 

What we're saying today is that you're either part of the solution or you're part of the problem.

Eldridge Cleaver

 

 

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