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The Somewhat Different To-do List

2013-02-23 11:07 (comments: 0)

Do you work with „to-do“  lists? Do you plan your days, moths, years and projects?

Do you give your tasks the necessary attention? If you do, then you might also be one of the people who lose themselves in all this planning and plan-following. The focus is on how and when the tasks will be completed but little attention is given to understanding who we become by completing those tasks.  

This is what one of my clients answered when I asked her who she had become in the last few weeks: “I have become a stressed, exhausted, petulant woman who has no more patience for people who don’t contribute to my success!” Then she stopped.

In the silence which followed that outburst the whole self-image of this woman collapsed. It was like an awakening. “What am I actually doing here?”

This moment of reflection was the starting point for shifting her focus back to herself. She put her TO-DO list away and started writing her TO-BE list instead. A To-Be list is a list where it is decided who one wants to become. This clarity then allows to prioritize the actions in such a way that the focus remains on ourselves and our development.

How does your To-Be list look like? Are there things on it such as:

  • Balanced
  • Approachable
  • Funny
  • Athletic
  • Healthy
  • Travel-loving
  • Well-read
  • Family-friendly
  • Spiritual
  • Etc.


Today I’d like to invite you to write your own To-Be list and then check it against your To-Do list to make sure that they are aligned and to check if you are on the right way or whether you are getting sidetracked.

This might change some priorities, remove something from the To-Do list or maybe add something to it. One way or the other, this will allow you to follow your own values!



The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.


Elizabeth Kubler-Ross


Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.


Golda Meir

Integrity simply means a willingness not to violate one's identity.

Erich Fromm

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