As described last week, the moment in which you take on 100% self responsibility, you also have 100% freedom of choice. No complaining, no accusations nor being a victim. It is truly a strong position when you understand that you always have choice! As soon as you understand that you have a choice, you can more easily assess the consequences and then make a well grounded decision. Creating the motivation to decide for one of the three possibilities is done by asking yourself the following question: what will it cost to leave everything as it is, and undertake nothing?

So, what are the three possibilities that we always have?

LOVE IT – this works through a change in perspective.

You can focus on the “glass as half empty” or you can see the glass as half full … there are always two perspectives! If my job is not that challenging and, at the moment, I can’t change that, then I will not be so tired in the evening and have more energy to take on private interests. If I can’t spend enough time with my partner at the moment because he is always gone, then I also have more time for myself and my own interests, etc.

CHANGE IT – what don’t you like, how could it be better, change it!

I can always change something or seek an improvement through my own initiative, by indicating my capabilities and have a career discussion with my supervisor. I can also plan regular rendezvous´ with my partner and enter them in his calendar as important meetings, etc. And, if all else fails, I still have the third possibility!

LEAVE IT – if neither one of the first two possibilities works, or are unsuitable, then I always have the possibility to leave it.

We always have the choice to leave it! Honestly, think about the possible consequences – what is the worst that could happen if I just leave it now? I have to look for a new job – how good are my chances and what would it cost by doing nothing? What would it cost if I don’t leave? How upset, perhaps even depressed or simply just unhappy will I be if I stay in the same situation for the next 10 years? How does my life look when I find something more fitting?

Now, take a moment and look at the areas in your life in which you are unhappy, feel like a victim, or are trying to suppress something. Which of the three ultimate possibilities do you choose, to make a decision in order to improve the situation? It is solely up to you to form your life as you see fit!  

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It's choice - not chance - that determines your destiny.

Jean Nidetch

Because you are in control of your life. Don't ever forget that. You are what you are because of the conscious and subconscious choices you have made.

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With every experience, you alone are painting your own canvas, thought by thought, choice by choice.

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