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Throne of Appreciation

2014-06-13 14:11 (comments: 0)

Some Years ago I was at a Quaker style wedding in San Francisco. The Quakers are a Christian denomination which also calls itself a “Religious Union of Friends”. It was a memorable event which I would like to share with you. Besides the fact that the ceremony took place in a simple arena in the Berkeley botanical gardens, surrounded by impressively large trees, it was also a remarkable ceremony. A priest opened the ceremony with a short introduction and then a clear chiming of a bell. Then there was silence. Whenever someone felt a desire to speak they stood up and spoke. Silence followed after that again. Friends and relatives spoke alternately about the bride and groom, about what they thought about marriage and life, which experiences they had made or just simply stating what they wished for the couple about to be married.

It was the most personal and emotional wedding I have experienced to date (besides my own, of course!). The wedding couple was showered with affection, appreciation and solidarity. They were enriched through encouragement and support and all the participants were inspired to reflect. There were hearty laughs, and oh so often an emotional tear was shed. All in all, it was very personal!

So how could you experience such a fulfilling and positive moment, even if you don’t want to get married or are already married? Here is a modified form which you can very easily celebrate with your friends and family, especially now in the summer when you sit together at a BBQ or on vacation:

In a room of positively minded people, one of the participants takes the seat „on the throne“. The others speak, alternating, about what they value about the person on the throne, what the person does particularly well, or what they admire in the person. You could tell stories in which this person played a special role. All in all, it is about reinforcing the positive attributes and values of the person on the throne. Then, when everything has been said, the next person sits on the throne.

Not only is one’s self worth strengthened but the often surprising feedback will motivate people to show even more of their positive behaviours. Trust yourself and take the throne of appreciation!



Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.



Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is neccessary.

Margaret Cousins


I know, indeed, of nothing more subtly satisfying and cheering than a knowledge of the real good will and appreciation of others. Such happiness does not come with money, nor does it flow from fine physical state. It cannot be brought. But it is the keenest joy, after all; and the toiler's truest and best reward.

William Dean Howells


Inspiring movie from Esther Hicks and Friends


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